Warning Signs

Too often, a relationship becomes painful and even dangerous before anyone seeks help. Our feelings and behaviors can warn us that we might be in an abusive relationship called Red Flags or Warning Signs.

Warning Signs/ Red Flags
(for people who may be in an abusive relationship)
Warning Signs/ Red Flags
(for people who may be abusing their dating partner)
  • Being physically hurt
  • Feeling afraid of your dating partner
  • Feeling isolated, maybe even alone
  • Losing your friends
  • Changing your behavior because of your dating partner’s jealousy
  • Feeling embarrassed, put down, ashamed, or guilty
  • Being threatened
  • Feeling manipulated or controlled
  • Being afraid to express your own feelings of anger
  • Feeling a nervous or sick feeling in your stomach when your dating partner is irritated, frustrated, or angry
  • Feeling a pounding or fluttering in your chest when your dating partner isn’t happy
  • Not being allowed to, or being afraid to, make decisions for yourself
  • Noticing that your dating partner has very traditional (stereotypical) beliefs about women and men
  • Noticing that your dating partner’s beliefs about the position of men and women in society are different from your own
  • Feeling as if your dating partner gets too personal or touches you in an unwanted way
  • Not having your thoughts or wishes for personal space respected
  • Physically assaulting your dating partner (hitting, slapping, pushing, kicking)
  • Intimidating your dating partner
  • Becoming angry if your dating partner is spending time with other people
  • Asking your dating partner to change his or her behavior because you’re jealous
  • Verbally threatening your dating partner
  • Using “guilt trips” to get your dating partner to do something
  • Feeling unable to control your own feelings of anger
  • Making your dating partner afraid of you
  • Forcing your dating partner to do sexual things that he or she is not comfortable doing

Friends Wheel

interior_helping_friendShows 6 different ways to help a friend who is in an abusive relationship. Teens in abusive relationships are more likely to turn to a friend than an adult or professional. If a friend comes to you upset or in trouble, it’s important to be supportive and helpful.